Dad-Shaped Hole

It was her first date. She was so excited. She took a long bath, got dressed up all pretty, put a flower in her hair, and waited. She had never been on a date before, but she knew it was exciting.

She came home- her face aglow. Her and her Daddy ate french fries and ice cream together. She delighted in his undivided attention. She felt loved. This was her first date, but hopefully not her last.


Today, there is a young lady in Oklahoma who has a dad-shaped hole in her heart. He loved her and cared for her for 30+ years. Now he's in Heaven and she's left to make sense of it all.

I was in her shoes, 26 years ago. The hole never closes up. It's always there. Time heals, but a girl never stops needing a Daddy.

I watch my daughters. They adore their Daddy. There are times when it seems like he is the only one who can turn their world right side up. They don't even know what they have. The relationship they have with their Daddy will greatly shape who they are, who they become.

There are also many daughters who have this Dad-shaped hole, but their father is still alive. He chooses not to meet their needs or perhaps, due to a variety of circumstances, doesn't even know how to meet their needs.

In spite of our circumstances, we all have a Father who desires a relationship with us that is even more fulfilling than our relationship with our earthly father could ever be. And when we allow our Heavenly Father to love us in the way that he desires, we will find comfort and love that passes all understanding.